Girlfriend talks to Ex?

[binder]

i don't deal with lying. no compromises at all. first lie=gone

i do'nt give a **** if i live with the girl. I delt with my ex of 4 years lying all the time and i won't do it again. Not even for a second. From all the girls i've dated since her, as soon as something is shady or their facts aren't straight they are gone. no questions, no second chances. If bitches get away with something once they will do it again. They always like to push their limits.

[[Rush]]

Speaking as a woman .. even I say that you have to get a handle on the situation FAST.

You HAVE to sit her down and talk to her -- and it's important that YOU are completely honest about everything. Don't try to concoct a story about how you wound up finding out about the texts to her ex and the night at the club. Tell her you picked up her phone to look at pictures and then came across the texts. If you start lying, it won't make you much better than her.

If she gets instantly furious about you looking through her phone, that's a big red flag that she does have stuff to hide. Otherwise, why would she get angry?

You need to tell her that her shenanigans behind your back upsets you, and that it isn't appropriate. Don't yell at her. Just tell her. Then see how she responds. If she's worth it, she'll be willing to apologize and discuss things. If she's not worth it, she'll probably flip out and start hollering and pitch a general hissy fit -- huge sign of immaturity and an untrustworthy attitude.

Let her hang herself, or save herself. But be ready to walk away.

EDIT: Just to add .. it IS possible for a woman to have male friends that she's not sexually interested in. But note that I said 'friends'. Start using phrases like 'best friend' and 'ex-boyfriend' and you're in a whole different realm -- that's where trouble starts.

[tragedycat]

Originally Posted by anonymous_coupe

Thanks for your input.

Id also like to add that I recently found out she went out to a club on a Friday night after she told me she was just gonna have dinner with her sister.

So not only has she lied to me about wheres shes been, but now shes talking to her EX. Im starting to lose trust in her...

Drop her, no questions asked. People like that can't and won't change, and if you stick with her it's just going to keep happening. I told my girlfriend whom I've been with for almost 4 years that the first time I catch her cheating or flirting with another guy she's out. No second chances, there are too many girls in this world to give a **** about a lying one.

That's not to say I don't let her hang around guys, I actually don't care as long as they are just friends. When I was oversees she hung out with a good male friend of mine and mutual male friends all the time. It's not a problem as long as everyone knows where they stand. But when you already know your girl is lying and doing **** behind your back, then kick her to the curb.

[jayelleseven]

Originally Posted by binder

i don't deal with lying. no compromises at all. first lie=gone

i do'nt give a **** if i live with the girl. I delt with my ex of 4 years lying all the time and i won't do it again. Not even for a second. From all the girls i've dated since her, as soon as something is shady or their facts aren't straight they are gone. no questions, no second chances. If bitches get away with something once they will do it again. They always like to push their limits.

YES! You give a pretty girl an inch and she'll take a freakin mile.. not anymore!

[jayelleseven]

Originally Posted by tragedycat

Drop her, no questions asked. People like that can't and won't change, and if you stick with her it's just going to keep happening. I told my girlfriend whom I've been with for almost 4 years that the first time I catch her cheating or flirting with another guy she's out. No second chances, there are too many girls in this world to give a **** about a lying one.

That's not to say I don't let her hang around guys, I actually don't care as long as they are just friends. When I was oversees she hung out with a good male friend of mine and mutual male friends all the time. It's not a problem as long as everyone knows where they stand. But when you already know your girl is lying and doing **** behind your back, then kick her to the curb.

Yup, cute girls are a dime a dozen. No need to put up with one who has issues; she will offer only short-term satisfaction, whether it be sexual, emotional, whatever because in the long-run YOU are likely the one who will lose and hurt the most.


Like most ppl have said, just be honest and talk to her. You will be surprised how well you can deal with any issue when you have adult conversations about them.

[eurodre]

i would also suggest plow her one last time then kick her to the curb that way u get some satisfaction out of screwin her over like she did to you

[lostsk8r]

Originally Posted by anonymous_coupe

I know....

The more I wait and stay with her, the more it'll hurt down the road because of being with her so long.

But like I dont know how to approach her about it because technically she doesnt know I found this stuff out. I went through her cell phone one day while she was in the shower just to innocently look at our Las Vegas pics on her phone. So if I confront her about this mess she will know I went thru her stuff which is a whole other argument in itself because of invasion of privacy.

dude screw that, my gf used to go through my phone and call me out on ****, I did the same to her, its ****ed up but if its what you gotta do then you shouldnt be in the relationship, you said you had good intentions going into her phone, half teh time i did too.

So with that, whenever I brought up what was bothering me I'd say hey I was going to check out some pics we took and noticed a text from a guy that popped up and it aroused my suspicions, what the **** is going on? i mean you had innocent intentions to look at pics.. shes lying to where she's going? drop her fast dude this is bad

[FrozenInferno]

Just playfully grab her phone why she is watching then look in there. You know where it is should be quick and confront her. If she has nothing to hide she will be honest. It isnt like she did anything wrong yet. Just know that if she makes a big deal about it then maybe its more then what you see.

[FrozenInferno]

Oh and if you do break up post pics in the ex gf thread to get back at her.

[Aznteazer]

talking to an ex is bullsh!t if either of you are in a relationship. that's just playing games...

[Garnet Canuck]

You obviously don't trust her, so why be with her?

[pattyskin]

Send her this then bounce and never talk to her again.

[zeroscythe]

it all depends on your girl bro.. i talk to my ex every now n then but i'd never get with her ever again lol but generally girls are much more influenced by their "feelings" which makes them unpredictable especially in a situation when they're talking to someone they had feelings for.. i've always said its never a smart idea to talk to ur ex's like their friends cuz believe either u or her is gonna end up f*cking things up.. i was in the same exact situation, i told her it was unacceptable n she kept doing it behind my back.. believe me girls are gonna do what they wanna do whether u kno about it or not so keep a close eye and make sure ur not getting jerked around.

[Ca$hio]

Run RUN away

[zeroscythe]

Originally Posted by Ca$hio

Run RUN away

wouldnt be a bad idea.. problem with girls is unlike men who're blantantly obvious girl can play u in the worst ways.. but perhapse its that stepping stone for this guy every gets owned at least once.. at least until u learn some girls just cant be trusted