i have installed SPL soild diff bushing... but i cant get the 2 bolts that go into the subframe to line up. the part of the bushing that faces the front of the car is flush to the subframe. im not sure if i have to push it in more or if im dumb and missing something

 

How much does it need to move? If it's just 1/4 inch or so then drift punch the rear bushing forward/backwards until the two front bolt holes line up. Once you torque everything down it will all settle into position. The front holes MUST line up, the position of the rear diff bushing is where the adjustment needs to be made.