Cheers to that.

 

Bottoms up.

 

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Ten quick tips to improve your self esteem

Posted: June 11th, 2007

1. Do what you love.
Everyone loves to do something, when you indulge yourself in your love you improve the way you feel about yourself. You improve your self esteem.

2. Help others out.
Nothing makes you feel a warm glow than when you unselfishly help others. of course you can argue that this in itself is selfish, but if you take that line of thought you must think that existence is selfish. Forget that. Just do a good deed, help someone out, doesn’t have to be big and it doesn’t have to cost any money.

3. Acknowledge your strengths
There is no one who has no strengths. Everyone is good at something, know what your good at and give yourself a pat on the back. Do things that bring this quality out into the open. Excercise it, make it stronger.

4. Don’t put up with crap.
There is no reason you should tolerate other people being mean to you. Even if they say they are doing it with love. Make sure people know they should be nice to you and if they refuse, walk away from them.

5. Drop your negative friends.
Hang out with people who are positive and support you. It may be fun to bitch and moan but if you hang out with these types of people you will eventually become one of them. You may have noticed that people who bitch and moan are never happy.

6. Do your research
A lof of self help books are a waste of time in the sense that the only person who can change you is you. Reading even this blog post will not change you unless you get emotionally involved with the information. Which is really hard as it’s really dry and boring. Go read biographies of people you respect, people who do positvive things and attain huge success. Learn from the master not the self help guru who is always in debt.

7. Learn to accept compliments.
It’s hard to accept a compliment and not to dismiss it as being ridiculous. Someone has an opinion and it should be respected, even if you do not argree with it. If people think good about you then maybe you should too.

8. Include positivity in your life.
I’m not talking an airy fairy chant in the mirror whilst naked. I mean take a positive slant on everything automatically. The meat pie you just bit in to may contain maggots, but maggots contain a lot of protien. OK that’s a bit extreme but you get the point.

9. Compare yourself against yourself.
If you look at how you were yesterday and how you are today and there is an improvement then that is great. If there is no improvement then you know you need to improve your efforts. Don’t start comparing your self to other people. Saying you are poor compared to D. Trump is just going to make you miserable.

10. There is no need for you to put yourself down.
y seeing yourself in a negative light you are only reinforcing your low self esteem. If you want to improve your self esteem. Ask yourself, how can I improve my self esteem. The answer will always be, find one positive thing about yourself and that will do it.

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^^just something i happened to run across today.

 

^ Great post Roman! Number 8 definitely describes my personality well.

 

Yeah, awesome. For #7 I find a a humble smile and a 'thank you' are sufficient. This really reminded me that I gotta work on #1. Hatin' my job right now and that's no way to spend half your waking time. And, as you all may have gathered, I'm big on #4. Not #4, Bobby Orr, though he IS the greatest hockey player who ever lived, not that 'Wayne' guy.

 

Roman, Fantastic post, the best one so far Absolutely 10 rules to live by. I could not agree more and I do try to follow those rules.

 

Years ago I was hatin my job also and I made a move and a a job change. Best thing I ever did. I also turned down another job that offered twice the income but I knew I would not be happy, also a good move for me. Follow your heart (ummm, and listen to your wifey too )

 

Good advice, Wayne. I've been trolling for a new job, had a bite or two but nothing landed yet. After 22 years in I.T. I think it's time for a real change and to take a whole new direction, to really do what I love. But until and unless I can support my family by doing that, I won't make too hasty a move.

 

Hey Roman, like others have said - great post. I really do try and live by those now. Thanks.

 

both great posts, and both things i've been thinking a lot about lately.

i was having a mini mid-life crisis a few weeks back (turning 26 this month-and for some reason i've always had it in my head i will only make it to 50) and was really trying to re-evaluate what was important to me and what wasn't. my job wasn't giving me any satisfaction...i'm really good at what i do, but i wasn't enjoying it as much as i used to. i also was thinking about everything i had sacrificed to get where i am...not having a serious girlfriend the whole time i was in university, and the last couple years being so busy at work i didn't have time to get out and meet anyone.

lately though i've been realizing the only person who can make me happy is myself, and if i was always in a bad mood it just made everything worse-from the job to trying to find someone to settle down with-so i've been making an effort to be more positive...giving more people compliments, helping others, etc. it really is true if you project happiness then happiness will find you, and things are turning around quickly. i've been much happier at work and even the girl thing is starting to look up-i finally figured out that although my job is important and it allows me to buy the toys that bring me some fun, the job just isn't more important then finding the true happiness of having someone close you can share your life with.

thats my rant...err..not used to this on a forum...whats the opposite of rant?

 

Good stuff Jeremy. You've picked up some good points to live life by.

LOL, mid life crisis at age 25. That's funny.

 

I think it's tnar. At the young age of 26 it seems you have gotten to the point that some never reach.
I've shared this great post with both my daughters and it certainly put a different perspective on their "TIME".
BTW Jeremy, we all do a rant now and then in this form. It's time well spent.

 

REPO....j/k =)

 

Good stuff Jeremy, I'm glad to hear you are finding yourself more happier these days. Give me a ring when you get a chance and we'll go to Timmies for a coffee.

 

Wow , that's pricey. Where will you go for cufflinks and a tie clip (OF jewlery).